Sunday, March 9, 2008

25 Rules That Guys Wish Women Knew

1. Crying is blackmail.

2. Ask for what you want. Subtle hints don't work.

3. Don't cut your hair. Ever.

4. Sometimes, we're not thinking about you. Live with it.

5. Get rid of your cat.

6. Anything we said six or eight months ago is inadmissible in an argument.

7. Anything you wear is fine. Really.

8. Christopher Columbus didn't need directions, and neither do we.

9. You have too many shoes.

10. If you think you're fat, you probably are. Don't ask us.

11. Learn to work the toilet seat; if it's up, put it down.

12. Mark anniversaries on a calendar.

13. Yes, peeing standing up is more difficult than peeing from point blank range. We're bound to miss sometimes.

14. "Yes" and "no" are perfectly acceptable answers.

15. A headache that lasts for 17 months is a problem. See a doctor.

16. Don't fake it. We'd rather be ineffective than deceived.

17. Sunday = sports.

18. If you don't dress like the Victoria's Secret girls, don't expect us to act like soap-opera guys.

19. If something we said can be interpreted two ways, and one of the ways makes you sad and angry, we meant the other one.

20. Let us ogle. If we don't look at other women, how can we know how pretty you are?

21. Don't rub the lamp if you don't want the genie to come out.

22. You can either ask us to do something or tell us how you want it done -- not both.

23. Women wearing Wonderbras and low-cut blouses lose their right to complain about having their boobs stared at.

24. You have enough clothes.

25. Nothing says "I love you" like sex.

Dating guidelines for single Moms

"I am a single mom of a three-year-old boy. I have just begun to date. I am afraid my son won't want to "share" me with anyone. What is the best way to introduce a date to my son and when is it appropriate for me to do so?"

When you are comfortable, introduce your date to your son as a "new friend." Friendship is not only the foundation of a viable marriage, but something your child understands! All new friendships do not continue, but good ones evolve. You cannot know the future, so just stay with the present.

First, there is no magic time frame for an introduction. After all, it is important that your son realizes that you need friends -- males and females that are your own age. Just as your son has his preschool friends, he will understand that you need adult friendships, too. It is not a matter of competition, so jealousy is lessened from the start.

Second, maintain appropriate boundaries during the dating process in order to protect your child from primary attachment to someone who may just be passing through. It is not the specific amount of time, but the nature of the commitment that evolves between you and a boyfriend that should determine the relationship between your child and a significant other.

Keep your dating life relatively separate from your family life until you know someone well enough to feel they would be a good friend to your son. Start off slowly with limited activities like going to the zoo or having a picnic. Do not assign parental responsibilities to a boyfriend. Wait until there is a clear commitment to the relationship and potential for marriage before considering deepening the involvement with your son.

Finally, answer your child's questions as honestly as possible. For example, one single mother had been dating a man for six months. The relationship had become a committed boyfriend-girlfriend relationship. The boyfriend became acquainted with her three-year-old son and they liked each other. They had been to the zoo and enjoyed contact around reading books and having breakfast together. One day, when her son wanted to play his educational computer game between bites, his mother was talking to him about the importance of sitting down to dinner together. She told him that family members are special to one another and having dinner together was a special time to be together in families. He took this opportunity to ask her if her boyfriend was a part of their family. She said "no," he was a good family friend.

This mom's answer clarifies boundaries. She refrained from setting up false expectations by blurring the line between friendship and family, even though her son and boyfriend were clearly developing affection for one another. When, and if, her boyfriend and she do commit to marriage, he would then be invited into the family with responsibilities and expectations for full membership!

Of course friendships are important, but it is important that you protect your child from getting overly involved with men who may appear as caring parental figures to a child only to disappear later. When in doubt, err on the side of caution.

Wednesday, March 5, 2008

Top 5 Clues on How to Spot a Gold Digger




#1 Watch out for RED flag questions.

Red flag questions are questions such as; how much do you make a year? Are you a homeowner? and what type of car do you drive? Oh and we must not forget the pressing question: How many kids do you have? These are the top 3 questions that a gold digger will ask you on the first conversation or if you are lucky, on your first date with her.

How much do you make a year? Why would she ask this question? Because a gold digger is a mobile calculator, therefore every question that relates to money is calculated to determine the percentage of the total amount that she believes she “deserves”.

Are you a homeowner? and what type of car do you drive? If that type of woman asks you those particular questions, then she is trying to determine your overall worth and whether being with you is a profitable investment for her. She would expect and only accept you if you are homeowner and you drive a luxury vehicle.

How many kids do you have? Your answer to the question will help her determine (calculate) much of your income and attention goes to your children and how much time you can devote to her. A gold digger is a needy individual that will take up a lot of your money, time and energy.

#2 She’s firm on only dating men who are wealthy and can take care of her.

Most women want to be with a man that is capable of providing for them in the future; however, gold diggers need to be with a man that will take care of them. This means that she will expect you to take care of all the expenses, provide her will a monthly income and daily allowances for her special needs.

#3 She’s always asking you for money.

You can spot a gold digger if she can’t resist from continuously asking you for money. Usually they begin with small requests for the first couple of days and gradually increase the amounts to determine your absolute limit. Remember that they are calculating how much they can get from you, during the period of time that they are with you. Most gold diggers are very skilled at it and know how and when to ask for money. However, their requests are usually accompanied by a flirtatious and/or sexual tease to prevent you from thinking about the amount.

#4 She remains with you because of the financial perks and rewards.

A gold digger loves to be pampered and be in the spotlight, therefore they want to be with someone that attends many galas, loves to dine out, generally hosts and attends parties or social gatherings and travels very often. This provides them with assurance on their investment, which is you and motivates them to continue the relationship. However, once the perks and rewards die down so does her interest in continuing the relationship.

#5 She doesn’t seem to care about you or your relationship with her.

A gold digger only cares about the relationship between her and your money. Everything else comes last. She may seem genuine, interested and devoted but those are all tactics that she will use to maintain her desired lifestyle. It’s not personal with them, It’s just business.

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